Return to Table of Contents of Having Your Baby When Others Say No

APPENDIX I

 

Reading for Ideas

 

These books are representative of the thousands available in libraries and bookstores. As of July 1989, they are all in print. If you have difficulty obtaining a book, are dissatisfied with a book, or have found another book especially helpful, please notify the author via email at bspenance@hotmail.com Your comments will be useful in planning revisions of this book.

The listing of these books does not imply that their authors or publishers adhere to any specific views regarding abortion.

ABUSE AND ASSAULT

 

Bass, Ellen and Laura Davis. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York: Harper & Row, 1988.

__________________ and Joan Torres. Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why. New York: Bantam, 1986.

Davidson, Terry. Conjugal Crime: Understanding and Changing the Wife Beating Pattern. New York: Hawthorn, 1978.

Gateley, Edwina. I Hear a Seed Growing. Trabuco Canyon, CA: Source Books, 1990. For prostitutes and those who counsel them.

Leman, Dr. Kevin. The Pleasers: Women Who Can't Say No and the Men Who Control Them. New York: Dell, 1987.

Miller, Kathy C. Healing the Angry Heart: A Strategy for Confident Mothering. Lynwood, WA: Aglow, 1984. Written by a mother who used to abuse her children.

NiCarthy, Ginny. Getting Free: A Handbook for Women in Abusive Relationships, rev. ed. Seattle, WA: Seal, 1986.

Walters, Candace. Invisible Wounds: What Every Woman Should Know About Sexual Assault. Portland, OR: Multnomah, 1988.

Zibolsky, Kay with Lynda Allison. Healing Hidden Hurts--How You Can Live Again, After Assault. Wilson, NC: Star, 1989. Christian.

ADDICTIONS

Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Staff. Al-Anon's Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. New York: Al-Anon, 1986. _______________________________________________.

Alateen: Hope for Children of Alcoholics. New York: Al-Anon, 1986.

Alcoholics Anonymous. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. New York: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc., 1981.

Bill B. Compulsive Overeater. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare, 1981.

Carnes, Patrick, Ph.D. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare, 1983.

Cauwels, Janice M. Bulimia: The Binge-Purge Compulsion. Garden City, NY: Doubleday, 1983.

Christian, Shanon with Margaret Johnson. The Very Private Matter of Anorexia Nervosa. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1986.

Fishel, Ruth. Learning to Live in the Now: Six Week Personal Plan to Recovery. Pompano Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1988. Recovery from addiction.

Hope and Recovery: A Twelve Step Guide for Healing From Compulsive Sexual Behavior. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare, 1987.

LeSourd, Sandra Simpson. The Compulsive Woman: How to Break the Bonds of Addiction to Food, Television, Sex, Men, Exercise, Shopping, Alcohol, Drugs, Nicotine, and Much More. Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1987.

Peluso, Emanuel and Lucy. Women and Drugs: Getting Hooked, Getting Clean. Minneapolis, MN: CompCare, 1988.

Perlmutter, Judy. Kick It: Stop Smoking in Five Days. Tucson, AZ: HP Books, 1986.

 

ADOPTION

Krementz, Jill. How It Feels to Be Adopted. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1982.

Lindsay, Jeanne Warren. Open Adoption: A Caring Option. Buena Park, CA: Morning Glory, 1987.

--------. Parents, Pregnant Teens, and the Adoption Option: Help for Families. Buena Park, CA: Morning Glory, 1989.

________. Pregnant Too Soon: Adoption Is An Option, rev. ed. Buena Park, CA: Morning Glory, 1988.

AFTER ABORTION COUNSEL

Mannion, Michael T. Abortion and Healing: A Cry to Be Whole. Kansas City, MO: Sheed and Ward, 1986.

Michels, Nancy. Helping Women Recover From Abortion: How to Deal With the Guilt, the Emotional Pain, and the Emptiness. Minneapolis, MO: Bethany, 1988.

BIRTH CONTROL AND NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING

Clubb, Elizabeth and Jane Knight. A Comprehensive Guide to Natural Family Planning. New York: Sterling, 1988.

CAREER AND EDUCATION

Bramlett, James. Finding Work: A Handbook. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1986.

Cardozo, Arlene Rossen. Sequencing: Having It All, But Not All at Once . . . A New Solution for Women Who Want Marriage, Career, and Family. New York: Atheneum, 1986.

Davidson, Christine. Staying Home Instead: How to Quit the Working-Mom Rat Race and Survive Financially. Lexington, MA: D.C. Heath, 1986.

Dreskin, William and Wendy. The Day Care Decision: What's Best for You and Your Child. New York: M. Evans & Company, Inc., 1983.

Half, Robert. The Robert Half Way to Get Hired in Today's Job Market. New York: Bantam, 1981.

Lowman, Kaye. Of Cradles and Careers: A Guide to Reshaping Your Job to Include a Baby in Your Life. Franklin Park, IL: La Leche League, 1984.

Nivens, Beatrice. Careers for Women Without College Degrees. New York: McGraw-Hill, 1988.

Sinetar, Marsha. Do What You Love; The Money Will Follow: Discovering Your Right Livelihood. New York: Dell, 1989.

Stanton, Jeanne Deschamps. Being All Things: How to Be a Wife, Lover, Boss, and Mother (and Still Be Yourself). New York: Doubleday, 1988.

CHOOSING PROFESSIONALS

Danto, Bruce L. So You Want to See a Psychiatrist? Salem, NH: Ayer, 1980.

Maurer, Janet R. How to Talk to Your Doctor: Getting Beyond the Medical Mystique. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1986.

McCarthy, Eugene et al. The Second Opinion Handbook: A Guide for Medical Self-Defense. New York: Nick Lyons Books, 1987.

Saltman, David A. and George Wilgus, III. The Layman's Guide to Legal Survival: What You Need to Know Before and After You Hire a Lawyer. Boston, MA: Bob Adams, 1988.

COMMUNICATION

Augsburger, David. Caring Enough to Confront: How to Understand and Express Your Deepest Feelings Toward Others. Ventura, CA: Regal, 1981.

Carnegie, Dale. How to Win Friends and Influence People. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1964.

Smalley, Gary and John Trent, Ph.D. The Language of Love: A Powerful Way to Maximize Insight, Intimacy, and Understanding. Pomona, CA: Focus on the Family, 1988.

CRISIS MANAGEMENT

Kushner, Harold S. When Bad Things Happen to Good People. New York: Avon, 1981.

Spencer, Anita L. Crises and Growth: Making the Most of Hard Times. Mahweh, NJ: Paulist, 1988.

Stearns, Ann Kaiser. Living Through Personal Crisis. New York: Ballentine, 1987.

DEATH

Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth. On Death and Dying. New York: Macmillan, 1969.

Landorf, Joyce. Mourning Song. Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1974. Woman faces own death.

Little, Deborah Whiting. Home Care for the Dying: A Reassuring, Comprehensive Guide to Physical and Emotional Care. Garden City, NY: Doubleday, 1985.

Nye, Miriam Baker. But I Never Thought He'd Die: Practical Help for Widows. Louisville, KY: John Knox, 1978.

Quinnett, Paul G. Suicide: The Forever Decision. New York: Continuum, 1987.

Schaefer, Dan and Christine Lyons. How Do We Tell the Children?: A Parents' Guide to Helping Children Understand and Cope When Someone Dies. New York: Newmarket, 1986.

DIET

Astor, Stephen, M.D. Hidden Food Allergies. Garden City Park, NY: Avery, 1988.

Brewer, Gail Sforza and Thomas H. The Brewer Medical Diet for Normal and High Risk Pregnancy: A Leading Obstetrician's Guide to Every Stage of Pregnancy. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1983.

Feingold, Ben F. and Helene S. The Feingold Cookbook for Hyperactive Children. New York: Random House, 1979.

La Leche League International, Roberta Bishop Johnson, ed. Whole Foods for the Whole Family. Franklin Park, IL: La Leche League, 1981. Cookbook.

Longacre, Doris Janzen. More With Less Cookbook. Scottdale, PA: Herald, 1976.

EMOTIONAL HEALING

Bradshaw, John. Healing the Shame That Binds You. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1988.

Branden, Nathaniel. How to Raise Your Self Esteem. New York: Bantam, 1987.

Carter, Les. Good n' Angry: How to Handle Your Anger Positively. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 1983.

___________, Paul Meier, and Frank B. Minirth. Why Be Lonely?: A Guide to Meaningful Relationships. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 1982.

Cerlin, Chuck. Cleaning Out Your Mental Closet: Transforming Negative Emotions. Wheaton, IL: Harold Shaw, 1987.

Dalton, Katharina. Depression After Childbirth: How to Recognize and Treat Postnatal Illness. New York: Oxford University Press, 1980.

Minirth, Frank B. and Paul D. Meier. Happiness is a Choice: A Manual on the Symptoms, Causes and Cures of Depression. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 1988.

Seamonds, David. Healing for Damaged Emotions. Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1987.

Smedes, Lewis B. Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve. New York: Pocket, 1984.

FAMILY LIVING

Briggs, Dorothy Corkill. Your Child's Self-Esteem: The Key to His Life. New York: Doubleday, 1975.

Broad, Laura Peabody and Nancy Towner Butterworth. The Playgroup Handbook. New York: St. Martin's, 1974. How to start a playgroup.

Clegg, Averil and Anne Woollett. Twins From Conception to Five Years. New York: Van Nostrand Reinhold, 1983.

Crook, William G., M.D., and Laura Stevens. Solving the Puzzle of Your Hard-to-Raise Child. New York: Random House, 1987.

McCullough, Bonnie Runyan and Susan Walker Monson. 401 Ways to Get Your Kids to Work at Home. New York: St. Martin's, 1981.

Procaccini, Dr. Joseph and Mark W. Kiefaber. Parent Burnout. Garden City, NY: Doubleday, 1983.

Smalley, Gary. The Key to Your Child's Heart. Waco, TX: Word, 1984.

Touw, Kathleen. Parent Tricks-of-the-Trade: 1,280 Hints for Your First Ten Years of Parenting. Mount Rainer, MD: Gryphon, 1987.

FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT

Blue, Ron. Master Your Money: A Step-by-Step Plan for Financial Freedom. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 1986.

Burkett, Larry. Answers to Your Family's Financial Questions. Pomona, CA: Focus on the Family, 1987.

Flanagan, Joan. Grass Roots Fundraising Book: How to Raise Money in Your Community. Chicago, IL: Contemporary, 1984.

HEALTH

Bergren, Wendy. "Mom Is Very Sick--Here's How to Help." Pomona, CA: Focus on the Family, 1982. Written by a terminally ill mother.

Feingold Association of the United States. The Feingold Handbook. Alexandria, VA: Feingold Association of the United States, 1986. How to determine food or additive sensitivity.

Gaes, Sissy. "My Child Is Very Sick--Here's How to Help." Pomona, CA: Focus on the Family, 1989. To be given to friends.

Harrison, Michael. The Unborn Patient, 2nd ed. Philadelphia, PA: W. B. Saunders, 1990. Medical treatment, surgery for the unborn.

Harwell, Amy with Kristina Tomasik. When Your Friend Gets Cancer: How You Can Help. Wheaton, IL: Harold Shaw, 1987.

Lewis, Kathleen. Successful Living With Chronic Illness. Garden City Park, NY: Avery, 1985.

McIlhaney, Joe S., Jr., M.D. 1250 Health-Care Questions Women Ask. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 1985.

Moffatt, Betty Clare. When Someone You Love Has AIDS: A Book of Hope for Family and Friends. New York: Nal Penguin, 1986.

Murphy, Judith K. Sharing Care: The Christian Ministry of Respite Care. New York: Pilgrim, 1986.

HUMOR

Bombeck, Erma. Family: The Ties That Bind . . . and Gag! New York: Random House, 1988.

Eberhart, Elvin. In the Presence of Humor: A Guide to the Humorous Life. New Salem, OR: Pilgrim, 1985.

Meberg, Marilyn. Choosing the Amusing. Portland, OR: Multnomah, 1986.

Snyder, Bernadette McCarver. Dear God, I Have This Terrible Problem: A Housewife's Secret Letters. Liguori, MO: Liguori, 1983.

Welliver, Dotsy. Smudgkin Elves and Other Lame Excuses. Winanakake, IN: Light and Life, 1981.

INFANT CARE

Brazelton, T. Berry. Infants and Mothers: Differences in Development, rev. ed. New York: Dell, 1983.

Harrison, Helen. The Premature Baby Book: A Parents' Guide for Coping and Caring in the First Year. New York: St. Martin's, 1983.

Hull, Karen. The Mommy Book: Advice for New Mothers From Women Who've Been There. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1986.

Krauss, Michael with Sue Castle. Your New Born Baby: Everything You Need to Know, Featuring Joan Lunden. New York: Warner, 1988.

La Leche League International. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. Franklin Park, IL: La Leche League, 1981.

Lindsay, Jeanne Warren. Teens Parenting. Buena Park, CA 90620: Morning Glory, 1981.

Sears, William, M.D. The Fussy Baby: How to Bring Out the Best in Your High Need Child. Franklin Park, IL: La Leche League, 1985.

Thevenin, Tine. The Family Bed: An Age-Old Concept in Child Rearing. Garden City Park, NY: Avery, 1985.

INSPIRATION AND MEDITATION

Brenneman, Helen Good. Meditations for the Expectant Mother. Scottdale, PA: Herald, 1968.

____________________. Meditations for the New Mother. Scottdale, PA: Herald, 1953.

Brin, Ruth F. Harvest: Collected Poems and Prayers. New York: Reconstructionist, 1986. Jewish poetry.

Casey, Karen and Martha Vanceburg. The Promise of a New Day: A Book of Daily Meditations. New York: Harper/Hazleden, 1983.

Fishel, Ruth. Time for Joy: Daily Affirmations. Pompano Beach, FL: Health, 1988.

LIFE AND STRESS MANAGEMENT

Braiker, Harriet B., Ph.D. The Type E Woman: How to Overcome the Stress of Being Everything to Everybody. New York: Dodd, Mead, 1986.

Bright, Dr. Deborah. Creative Relaxation: Turning Your Stress Into Positive Energy. New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1979.

Culp, Stephanie. How to Get Organized When You Don't Have the Time. Cincinnati, OH: Writer's Digest, 1986.

DeRosis, Helen A. Women and Anxiety. New York: Dell, 1981. Twenty-step program to deal with anxiety.

Felton, Sandra. The Messies Manual: The Procrastinator's Guide to Good Housekeeping. Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1981.

Minirth, Frank et al. How to Beat Burnout: Help for Men and Women. Chicago, IL: Moody, 1986.

Whitfield, Charles L., M.D. Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families. Deerfield Beach, FL:  Health, 1987.

Woititz, Janet. Adult Children of Alcoholics. Pompano Beach, FL: Health, 1983.

LOVE MANAGEMENT

Cowan, Dr. Connell and Dr. Melvyn Kinder. Smart Women, Foolish Choices: Finding the Right Men/Avoiding the Wrong Ones. New York: Clarkson N. Potter Signet, 1985.

Gullo, Stephen, Ph. D., and Connie Church. Loveshock: How to Recover From a Broken Heart and Love Again. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1988.

Marshall, Sharon. Surviving Separation and Divorce: How to Keep Going When You Don't Really Want To. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 1988.

Norwood, Robin. Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change. Los Angeles, CA: Jeremy P. Taner, 1985.

Schaeffer, Brenda. Is It Love or Is It Addiction?: Falling Into Healthy Love. New York: Harper and Row, 1987.

Stafford, Tim. Worth the Wait: Love, Sex, and Keeping the Dream Alive. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale, 1988.

MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT

Cirner, Randall and Therese. 10 Weeks to a Better Marriage. Ann Arbor, MI: Servant, 1985.

Lindsay, Jeanne Warren. Teenage Marriage: Coping With Reality. Buena Park, CA: Morning Glory, 1988.

Mylander, Charles. Running the Red Lights. Ventura, CA: Regal, 1986. Affairs.

Rainey, Dennis and Barbara. The Questions Book for Marriage Intimacy. Phoenix, AZ: Questar, 1988.

Williams, Pat and Jill. Rekindled. Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1985. Rebuilding a crumbling marriage.

Wright, H. Norman and Wes Roberts. Before You Remarry: A Guide to Successful Remarriage. Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1988.

PERSONAL GROWTH

Briggs, Dorothy Corkille. Celebrate Yourself: Enhancing Your Own Self-Esteem. New York: Doubleday, 1986.

Lindquist, Marie. Holding Back: Why We Hide the Truth About Ourselves. Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1987.

Seamonds, David A. Putting Away Childish Things. Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1982.Maturity.

Wegscheider-Cruse, Sharon. Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health, 1987.

PREGNANCY AND BIRTH

"Bill." Daddy, I'm Pregnant. Portland, OR: Multnomah, 1987. Pregnant teen.

Brinkley, Ginny, Linda Goldberg, and Janice Kukar. Your Child's First Journey: A Guide to Prepared Birth From Pregnancy to Parenthood. Garden City Park, NY: Avery, 1982.

Childbirth Association of Rochester, Inc. A Labor of Love: A Guide to Family-Centered Cesarean Birth. Garden City Park, NY: Avery, 1987.

Girard, Linda Wolvoord. At Daddy's on Saturdays. Niles, IL: Whitman, Albert, 1987. Storybook about a child of divorce.

Heil, Ruth. My Child Within. Westchester, IL: Good News, 1983. Journal of pregnancies.

Heiman, Carrie J. The Nine-Month Miracle: A Journal for the Mother-to-Be. Ligouri, MO: Ligouri, 1986. Journal to fill in.

Kitzinger, Shelia. Photography by Lennart Nilsson. Being Born. New York: Grosset & Dunlap, 1986. Photos of unborn children.

-----------------. Birth Over Thirty. New York: Penguin, 1985.  

Koch, Janice. Our Baby: A Birth and Adoption Story. Chicago, IL: Perspective Press, 1985. Children's book.

Olkin, Sylvia Klein. Positive Pregnancy Fitness. Garden City Park, NY: Avery, 1987.

Verny, Thomas, M.D., with John Kelly. The Secret Life of the Unborn Child. New York: Dell, 1981. Psychology of the unborn.

PREGNANCY AND INFANT LOSS

Cohen, Marion. An Ambitious Sort of Grief: Pregnancy and Neo-Natal Loss. Las Colinas, TX: Liberal Press, 1986. Mother's journal.

Gryte, Marilyn. No New Baby. Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation, 1988. Children's picture book.

Ilse, Sherokee. Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death. Long Lake, MN: Wintergreen, 1982.

--------------- and Susan Erling. "Planning a Precious Goodbye After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death." Wayzata, MN: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Center, 1984.

--------------- and Linda Hammer Burns. "Sibling Grief After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death." Wayzata, MN: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Center, 1984.

Page, Carole Gift. Misty, Our Momentary Child. Westchester, IL: Crossway, 1987. Dying baby.

Semchyshyn, Stefan, M.D., and Carol Coleman. How to Prevent Miscarriage and Other Crises of Pregnancy: A Leading High-Risk Doctor's Prescription for Carrying Your Baby to Term. New York: Macmillan, 1989.

Webster, Robert. "Letters to Geoffrey: A Father's Letters to His Premature Son From Birth to Death." Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation, 1988.

SINGLE PARENTING

Ashton, Betty. Betty Ashton's Guide to Living on Your Own for the Very First Time. Boston, MA: Little, Brown, 1988.

Reed, Bobbie. I Didn't Plan to Be a Single Parent. St. Louis, MO: Concordia, 1981.

Swihart, Judith J. and Steven L. Brigham. Helping Children of Divorce. Downers Grove, IL: Intervarsity, 1982.

SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD

Anderson, Winifred, Stephen Chitwood, and Deidre Hayden. Negotiating the Special Education Maze: A Guide for Parents and Teachers. Kensington, MD: Woodbine House, 1989.

Cunningham, Cliff and Patricia Sloper. Helping Your Exceptional Baby: A Practical and Honest Approach to Raising a Mentally Handicapped Baby. New York: Pantheon, 1981.

Duckworth, Marion. Families of Handicapped Children. Elgin, IL: David C. Cook, 1988. How a church can help.

Pueschel, Siegfried M. and James C. Bernier. The Special Child: A Source Book for Parents of Children With Developmental Disabilities. Baltimore, MD: Paul H. Brooks, 1988.

Schwartz, Sue, Ph.D., and Joan E. Heller Miller. The Language of Toys: Teaching Communication Skills to Special-Needs Children. Kensington, MD: Woodbine House, 1988.

Stray-Gunderson, Karen. Babies With Down Syndrome: A New Parents' Guide. Kensington, MD: Woodbine House, 1986.

Taylor, John. The Hyperactive Child and the Family: The Complete What-to-Do Handbook. New York: Dodd, Mead, 1983.

Thompson, Charlotte E., M.D. Raising a Handicapped Child. New York: Ballentine, 1986.

SPIRITUAL GROWTH

Booth, Father Leo. Meditations for Compulsive People: God in the Odd. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health, 1987.

Chapian, Marie. His Thoughts Toward Me. Minneapolis, MN: Bethany, 1987.

de Champlain, Sister Adrienne. How to Evangelize Myself, First of All! Available free from Sister Adrienne at St. Anthony Convent, 122 School Street, Taunton, MA 02780.

Green, Melody. ". . . but I can't forgive myself!" Lindale, TX: Last Days Ministries, 1985.

Hybels, Bill. Too Busy Not to Pray: Slowing Down to Be With God. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1988.

Kushner, Harold. When All You've Ever Wanted Isn't Enough: The Search for Life That Matters. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1986.

Rosage, David E. The Lord Is My Shepherd: Praying the Psalms. Ann Arbor, MI: Servant, 1984.

Sherrer, Quin. How to Pray for Your Children. Lynnwood, WA: Aglow, 1986.

Yancy, Philip. Where Is God When It Hurts? Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1977.

 

Return to Table of Contents of Having Your Baby When Others Say No